Computer access still an issue for me, hence the delay in posting.
We were forced indoors due to persistent rain but, in spite of that, there was an impressive turn out, especially the number of "young bloods" - great to see.
Paul Smith conducted our first interview with Steve.
Steve was adopted & lived in Sydney during his early childhood. His Dad worked in real estate, often 7 days a week, & was an absent dad. His Mum "compensated" by being emotionally domineering. As a result, Steve learnt early in life it was best to hide his inner feelings. He also developed the belief that working hard & bringing in the $$ makes you lovable from observing his parents interactions, which often about money & the lack of it. His early working life was frenetic as he attempted to fulfil that belief.
His family moved to Qld when he was 11 & in Year 9 he took up ballroom dancing. He excelled & competed at National level, however, his parents never watched him perform. Steve gave the "young bloods" (& probably reminded a few older fellas) a tip: Every woman loves a man who can dance. He should know, he met his wife at dancing.
He marries in his early 20's & after 16 years he was unhappy & looking for an excuse to bail. They separated for a short period & Steve realised he didn't really want out of his marriage, he just wanted it to be better. It was during this separation that Steve woke in the middle of the night to find a Bible in his hand. To this day he has no idea where it came from but he's never forgotten the day or time of this "God moment", or the passage he was lead to read.
He returned home but, although he was living with his wife, they were apart. At his wife's request, he began seeing a psychologist. He soon noticed everything his psych was telling him lined up with what he was reading in the Bible. He also realised the inner need for men in his life that wasn't available to him as a child. He began working on himself & his relationship with his children, things that were within his control; he knew he couldn't "fix" his marriage.
A major turning point for Steve was attending a "Wild At Heart" men's course. He came through that a new man. He knew there was a wall he had built & he had been chipping away one brick at a time, but it came crashing down after Wild At Heart. His wife started noticing the changes in him as a man and a father & she was really impacted when he stood up for her & protected her in a situation.
Steve felt God had said to him that Wild At Heart was not just for him, but to bring others into the same revelation/experience. Steve's now conducting Wild At Heart courses.
Steve's "Nugget of Gold": Marriage is never "fixed" - it's a work in progress.
AL's "Nugget of Gold": Nothing changes if nothing changes. If you want others to change, start changing yourself first.
Part 2 coming soon. God bless n luv ya guts
Add a Comment